October 4, 2011

I haven't posted anything since Macy had left.  I don't know if anyone is following our story, but I thought it would be good to share if anyone is.  I am not much of a blogger.  Truthfully this is the first time I have ever done it, so if anyone is following our journey, I am sorry for being so late. 
It has been two months since Macy has left.  Her drop off was quick.  She expressed some sincere emotions that lasted about 20 minutes.  The two days prior to her leaving were pleasant.  I think that Heavenly Father softened her heart so we all could experience some better days together. 
Macy's progress:  It is nice to say that Macy is showing progress.  To some of you the progress may seem crazy, but trust me it progress.  Macy is being very defiant and raging (this is the progress).  Why is this progress?  She is expressing her true feelings.  It usually takes 4-5 months for these children to show their true colors and Macy started showing it the 1st month.  K (the person working with her) believes that with what we have worked with her at home and her ability to express her emotions, that Macy will come home a normal, healthy child. 
A specialist visited Macy the first month and assigned tasks for her to do.  These task used certain parts of the brain and could tell us what parts are under developed.  With this knowledge, K can work with Macy on the parts needing more development and get it to where a 7 year old child should be.  Why is this important?  Children with RAD have brains that are under developed.  They lack a lot of the development that we get as infants because of the lack of nurturing, love and touch.  This was really exciting to us to be able to focus on specific parts of her brain.  It also re-assured us that this is the right place for her to be.
The rest of us are doing well. The boys and Scott are busy with football.  Taylor is just getting ready to play High School lacrosse and Skyler is busy with work, internship and his social life.  Now that I have gotten emotionally stronger, I have decided to help families with RAD children.  I offer emotional support for the distressed moms and give them a break ever once in a while by watching their kids.  It is important for these parents to have a safe place for their RAD children to go where they won't come home a mess.  It has been really rewarding to me and has made me stronger. 
Thank you for your love and prayers. 

If you have any questions about RAD please feel free to email me.